Thursday, October 24, 2013

Day 24: the 3 o'clock hour

The girls and Lolli right before we headed back hom
We are back home in East Tn this morning. Our trip back yesterday was much less eventful then the scream fest we experienced going to my parents house on Saturday. Thank God!

There was this peaceful scene for a brief time in the trip:

both girls sleeping... at the same time
Another bright spot in the trip home was stopping my brother Daniel's office (he is a physical therapist) for a quick visit.

Unfortunately, in the car,  awake toddler happiness was the result of listening to the DocMcstuffins theme song on repeat for an hour and a half! Followed by the Hot Dog song for another 40ish minutes, until Ellie lost her listening privileges due to high pitched, ear piercing screaming. 

At this point, we were about 20 minutes from home and both girls were shrieking. So I did what every normal mom would do - turned on the radio at nearly full blast.

Mikky Ekko and Rihanna's song, Stay, was just beginning. Miraculously, silence ensued, and continued throughout the song! At the end of the song, Ellie held up her pointer finger and said "Rooowwwwn mo time, peas." (Round one more time please)

Thankfully, I had the song on my iPod! We listened to Stay on repeat until we got home. Then Ellie screamed more because she had to get out of the car and couldn't listen to "Rooowwwn" anymore.

Never thought I would thank Rihanna for improving my child's behavior.:)

As wonderful as our time with my family was, I very glad to be home and to be getting back into our normal routine.

Our house is a disaster zone with all our half unpacked bags, laundry... I am tired from all the late nights up visiting. Ellie is a little out of sorts and missing all my family members who waited on her hand and foot (as my husband says, this ain't the Ritz, kid). 

This morning, as I sat nursing Quinn, in the middle of the mess that is our house, I had a moment where my attitude began to quickly spiral downward. You know that overwhelming feeling when you think of all that you need to get done that day? 

I started to pray for peace and focus. Then I remembered the 3 o'clock hour.

It is one of my most favorite times of the day. Ellie Faith is usually down for a nap by 2 pm. Quinn doesn't eat until 3, so from 2-3 I do a house hold chore blitz. By 3 pm the house at least looks clean, if you don't look too close.

Quinn eats at 3. I love being able to sit in a neat/clean room that smells good and really enjoy the moments of feeding my babies. After a diaper change, Quinn is usually back to sleeping soundly. She and I enjoy a few moments (or more) of some uninterrupted cuddles. I usually reheat some decaf coffee, and pretend it has caffeine to give me a extra push to finish the day strong. Sometimes I read, catch up on blogs and social media, doze, watch some unashamedly mindless tv, etc.. Basically, it is a small moment in the day when I am usually pretty free to do me.

Maybe it's selfish. But I have found I am a much better wife and mom if I take those 30-45 minutes in the 3 o'clock hour to be mindless, goal-less, and quiet. I don't need much me time, overall, but for now, this window of time in the day helps my attitude and sanity. 

Being needed and wanted 24-7 can wear anyone out. There are days it exhausts me. 

So until I grow and mature more in my role of wife and mom, the 3 o'clock hour is mine... or until my girl's schedule changes.:) But even with growth and maturity, I still think it is very important for me to continue to maintain a brief window of time in the day for me to connect with me. Not to indulge necessarily, but to connect with myself. To see where my mental and emotional status is. How I am changing and evolving. 

And don't worry, my devotional/quiet time before the Lord happens first thing in the morning... otherwise it won't happen. And as a mom, my prayer life is alllll day long. How else do you survive!?!:)

For me to be the best wife and mom I can be, I need to be the best me I can be. And that takes honest introspection. 5, 10, 20 years from now I don't want to be doing things, routines, life, the same way I am today all because I never took the time to stay in touch the evolution of myself. If I never stop to take inventory, I will never know or see areas that need improvement, or even be encouraged by areas of growth.

So for now, 3 o'clock will be a time I look forward to every day. Even if all I do is watch this little one sleep on me.


  1. That's really cool that you have that time each day -- and a great point for me to think about a few months pre-motherhood. :-D

    1. it definitely doesn't always work out that way, but it is a goal, and its really great when it all works out!:) As luck would have it, yesterday it did NOT happen as my 20 month old came down with strep throat, poor girl:(